Signpostings

Relationships in a World of Individualism

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    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

    I also blog at Sharewik.com

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Posts Tagged ‘loneliness’

Cities of the Future: Loneliness as a Way of Life

Posted by Dale Kuehne on June 29, 2017

Individualism and Freedom are liberalism’s gift to the world. Little did the liberal philosophers know that it would enable us to gain the world at the cost of our soul.

http://theweek.com/articles/689527/hightech-cities-future-utterly-lonely

There’s somebody waiting alone in the street
For someone to walk up and greet

Here you are all alone in the city
Where’s the one that you took to your side
Lonely faces will stare through your eyes in the night
And they’ll say – woman sweet woman please come home with me
You’re shining and willing and free
But your love it’s a common occurence
Not like love that I feel in my heart
Still you know that may be what I need

Is someone to lay down beside me
And even though it’s not real
Just someone to lay down beside me
You’re the story of my life

Well morning is breaking the street lights are off
The sun will soon share all the cost
Of a world that can be sort of heartless
Not like love that you feel in our heart
Still you know that may be all you get

Someone to Lay Down Beside Me by Karla Bonoff from self-titled album (1977)

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Japan and the Next Frontier in Relational Armageddon: The End of Sex

Posted by Dale Kuehne on January 24, 2015

In 1983 Walker Percy asked what happens when sex becomes boring? Apparently we are finding out. By virtually every measure, including casual sex, the Japanese are becoming too busy, tired, or self absorbed to engage relationally with another. And they are not alone. The demographic trends in the West are all this trajectory.

Percy surmised that when sex becomes boring we will turn to violence.

Where did love go?

http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/why-have-young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex

Lonely
I’m Mr. Lonely
I have nobody
To call my own

I’m so lonely
I’m Mr. Lonely
I have nobody
For my own
I’m so lonely

Yo, this one here
Goes out to all my playas out there, man, you know
That got that one good girl, lord
That’s always been there man like
Took all the bull****
And then one day she can’t take it no more
And decide to leave

Yeah, I woke up in the middle of the night
And I noticed my girl wasn’t by my side
Coulda sworn I was dreamin’
For her I was feenin’
So I had to take a little ride

Backtracking on these few years
Tryna figure out what I do to make it go bad
Cuz ever since my girl left me
My whole life came crashin’ an’ I’m so

Lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
To call my own
(To call my own girl)

I am so lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
For my own
(To call my own girl)
I am so lonely

Can’t believe I had a girl like you
And I just let you walk right outta my life
After all I put you through you still
Stuck around and stayed by my side

What really hurt me is I broke your heart, baby
You a good girl and I had no right
I really wanna make things right
Cuz without you in my life girl I’m so

Lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
To call my own
(To call my own girl)

I am so lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
For my own
(To call my own girl)
I am so lonely

Been all about the world ain’t never met a girl
That can take the things that you been through
Never thought the day would come
Where you’d get up and run
And I would be out chasing you

Cuz ain’t nowhere in the globe I’d rather be
Ain’t no one in the globe I’d rather see
Than the girl of my dreams that made me be
So happy but now I’m so lonely

Lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
To call my own
(To call my own no)

I am so lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
For my own
(To call my own girl)
I am so lonely

Never thought that I’d be alone
(Be alone)
I didn’t think you’d be gone this long
(Gone so long)
I just want you to call my phone
So stop playing girl and come on home
(Come on home)

Baby girl I didn’t mean to shout
I want me and you to work it out
(Work it out baby)
I never wished that I would hurt my baby
(Hurt my baby)
And it’s drivin’ me crazy cuz I’m so

Lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
For my own
(To call my own girl)

I am so lonely
(So lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely
(Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody
(I have nobody)
For my own
(To call my own girl)
I am so lonely

So lonely
(Lonely)
So lonely
(So lonely)
Mr. Lonely
(Lonely)

So lonely
(So lonely)
So lonely
(Lonely)

So lonely
(So lonely)
So lonely
Mr. Lonely

Lonely by Akon from Trouble (2004)

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The iPandemic: Loneliness

Posted by Dale Kuehne on December 30, 2014

There has always been loneliness in the world, but not like this. In the West loneliness is becoming legion, bleeding across economic and demographic lines.

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/14/age-of-loneliness-killing-us

We walked the loneliest mile
We smile without any style
We kiss altogether wrong
No intention

We lie about each other’s drinks
We live without each other
Thinking what anyone would do
Without me and you

It’s like I told you
Only the lonely can play

So hold on here we go
Hold on to nothin’ we know
I feel so lonely way up here

You mention the time
We were together so long ago
Well, I don’t remember all I know is
It makes me feel good now

It’s like I told you
Only the lonely can play
Only the lonely
Only the lonely can play

Only the lonely
Only the lonely can play
It’s like I told you
Only the lonely can play

Only the lonely
Only the lonely can play

Only the Lonely by the Motels from All Four One (1982)

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The Future of Marriage and Family (Take 3)

Posted by Dale Kuehne on November 16, 2012

In the face of statistics that not only speak to a decline in marriage, but a rise in people over 50 who wish to never be married, this essay argues that marriage is something our society needs to recover, even if it is not for everyone. Are we made for the iWorld or for another?

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/9651330/Marriage-works-and-its-the-answer-to-the-misery-of-loneliness.html

If I were a carpenter
And you were a lady,
Would you marry me anyway?
Would you have my baby?

If a tinker were my trade
would you still find me,
Carrying the pots I made,
Following behind me.

Save my love through loneliness,
Save my love for sorrow,
I’m given you my onliness,
Come give your tomorrow.

If I worked my hands in wood,
Would you still love me?
Answer me babe, “Yes I would,
I’ll put you above me.”

If I were a miller
at a mill wheel grinding,
would you miss your color box,
and your soft shoe shining?

If I were a carpenter
and you were a lady,
Would you marry me anyway?
Would you have my baby?
Would you marry anyway?
Would you have my baby?

If I Were a Carpenter sung by Johnny and June Carter Cash, written by Tim Hardin from Hello, I’m Johnny Cash (1969)

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The New Chinese Cultural Revolution: Fear and Loneliness

Posted by Dale Kuehne on October 17, 2012

The iWorld has come to China.

China cannot survive the loss of a cultural/social/spiritual narrative.

Neither can we.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-china-19827537

If I could find someone who really cared for me
someone to share my love and keep me company
If could find someone I’d let them take control
and in exchange for love I’d give my very soul

It’s such a lonely life
I almost cry each night
cause faith has put me on the shelf
I get so lonely, so lonely by my self

If I could find someone who’d really love me right
they’d make my life complete they’d make my soul shine bright
I’ve looked around the world I’ve walked down every street
still I can’t find no one to give me what I need

It’s such a lonely life
I almost cry each night
cause faith has put me, faith has put me on the shelf
I get so lonely so lonely by my self
I get so lonely, so lonely, so lonely by my self

Who can I turn to
Is there anybody there
doesn’t anybody care
Oh doesn’t anybody listen
doesn’t anybody care

Lonely by Myself by Larry Norman from So Long Ago the Garden (1973)

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