Signpostings

Relationships in a World of Individualism

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    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

    I also blog at Sharewik.com

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Trump’s First 100 Days: Lonely Like America

Posted by Dale Kuehne on April 27, 2017

The Australian Broadcasting Corporation (ABC) today published my editorial on Trump’s first 100 days.

http://www.abc.net.au/religion/articles/2017/04/28/4660433.htm

For we are lonely like America
Land of less and more
Lonely like America
Mythic Graceland tour
The pioneers and racketeers
Sepia wagon trains
Across the Midwest plain

Lonely like America
The hustler and the free
Lonely like America
From sea to shining sea
The flag that’s draped round the brave
Stars and stripes of deep dismay
Simply not having a nice day
We are lonely we are America
Lonely like America

Martyn Joseph, Lonely Like America from Under Lemonade Skies (2010)

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Relational Well-Being Trumps Wealth

Posted by Dale Kuehne on April 13, 2017

Still more research to indicate that the quality of our relationships matter more than our standard of living.

When will our political and economic leaders catch on?

Probably when we all begin to realize that what is missing from our lives is not more income but better relationships. It is not more money that we need.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-38285223

Well He hasn’t always been around
And He won’t always be.
But He’s on the move at this moment
Measuring life for you and me.

I fear we all submit to him
Existing anxiously,
And no one is able to turn him off
Except the Lord who holds the key.

Time by Phil Keaggy from Love Broke Through (1976)

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iRomance: An App for That

Posted by Dale Kuehne on April 12, 2017

Japanese women have found an app for romance that is even better than the real thing.

http://www.cnn.com/2016/11/21/asia/romance-gaming-japan/index.html

Give me one more chance
And you’ll be satisfied
Give me two more chances
You won’t be denied

Well my heart is where it’s always been
My head is somewhere in between
Give me one more chance
Let me be your lover tonight

You’re the real thing
Yeah the real thing
You’re the real thing
Even better than the real thing

Give me one last chance
And I’m gonna make you sing
Give me half a chance
To ride on the waves that you bring

You’re honey child to a swarm of bees
Gonna blow right through you like a breeze
Give me one last dance
We’ll slide down the surface of things

You’re the real thing
Yeah the real thing
You’re the real thing
Even better than the real thing

We’re free to fly the crimson sky
The sun won’t melt our wings tonight

Oh now
Here she comes

Take me higher
Take me higher
You take me higher?
You take me higher?

You’re the real thing
Yeah the real thing
You’re the real thing

Even better than the real thing
Even better than the real thing
Even better than the real thing

Even Better than the Real Thing by U2 from Achtung Baby (1991)

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My Heroes (Take 1): Camille Paglia

Posted by Dale Kuehne on March 15, 2017

During my lifetime I have had a few intellectual heroes. My first was versatile American novelist Walker Percy to whom I was introduced while in College. Then at Harvard Divinity School I learned from Dutch priest Fr. Henri Nouwen. During Graduate School I was blessed to be tutored by Jean Bethke Elshtain whom I was later blessed to count as a friend and colleague. Now, with Jean’s passing, Camille Paglia of the University of Pennsylvania has assumed the mantle of contemporary intellectual from whom I’d most like to take an advanced degree.

I’d settle for a long lunch, … mostly because she can’t settle for anything short.

What do my hero’s have in common? They each caught a wiff of something lethal and put it to words. Be describing death they also came to understand what it means to call forth life.

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/camille-paglia-discusses-her-war-on-elitist-garbage-and-contemporary-feminism

Too alarming now to talk about
Take your pictures down and shake it out
Truth or consequence, say it aloud
Use that evidence, race it around

There goes my hero
Watch her as she goes
There goes my hero
She’s ordinary

Don’t the best of them bleed it out
While the rest of them peter out
Truth or consequence, say it aloud
Use that evidence, race it around

There goes my hero
Watch her as she goes
There goes my hero
She’s ordinary

Kudos, my hero
Leaving all the best
You know my hero
The one that’s on

My Hero by the Foo Fighters from The Color and the Shape (1998)

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Charles Murray and Middlebury: Bordering on Resignation

Posted by Dale Kuehne on March 14, 2017

As one who has drawn askant stares for requiring my Politics of Diversity students to read The Bell Curve by Charles Murray, this episode grieves me. As one who regards the University as our society’s last hope for freedom because of its singular role in fostering the free exchange of ideas, I find myself discouraged to the point of resignation. As one who still bears the physical and emotional scars from the actions of University protestors that shut down talks I was invited to give in the US and Europe on the meaning of the human person and human relationships, I find myself wondering if the good in me is dead.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/13/opinion/understanding-the-angry-mob-that-gave-me-a-concussion.html?_r=0

What I need, what we need, is to somehow start again. To be reborn.

16th of June, nine 0 five, door bell rings
Man at the door says if I want to stay alive a bit longer
There’s a few things I need you to know. Three

Coming from a long line of travelling sales people on my mother’s side
I wasn’t gonna buy just anyone’s cockatoo
So why would I invite a complete stranger into my home
Would you?

These days are better than that
These days are better than that

Every day I die again, and again I’m reborn
Every day I have to find the courage
To walk out into the street
With arms out
Got a love you can’t defeat
Neither down or out
There’s nothing you have that I need
I can breathe
Breathe now

16th of June, Chinese stocks are going up
And I’m coming down with some new Asian virus
Ju Ju man, Ju Ju man
Doc says you’re fine, or dying
Please
Nine 0 nine, St John Divine, on the line, my pulse is fine
But I’m running down the road like loose electricity
While the band in my head plays a striptease

The roar that lies on the other side of silence
The forest fire that is fear so deny it

Walk out into the street
Sing your heart out
The people we meet
Will not be drowned out
There’s nothing you have that I need
I can breathe
Breathe now
Yeah, yeah

We are people borne of sound
The songs are in our eyes
Gonna wear them like a crown

Walk out, into the sunburst street
Sing your heart out, sing my heart out
I’ve found grace inside a sound
I found grace, it’s all that I found
And I can breathe
Breathe now

Breathe by U2 from No Line on the Horizon (2011)

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Another One Bites the Dust (Take 2): Gender Scouting

Posted by Dale Kuehne on February 26, 2017

The question is not whether girl scouting will allow transgendered girls to opt in, but whether we will have Boy or Girl scouting …?

Another distinction bites to dust.

http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2017/01/31/512541372/boy-scouts-will-admit-transgender-boys

The busses that you ride in, they say are mighty fine,
But when they turn a corner, they leave the wheels behind.

Chorus
Oh, I don’t want to go to Boy/Girl Scout Camp.
Gee, Mom, I want to go, but they won’t let me go;
Gee, Mom, I want to go home.

The leaders that they have here, they say are mighty fine,
But when you get up closer, they look like frankenstein.

The first aid that they give you, they say is mighty fine,
But if you cut your finger, you’re left with only nine.

The water that they have here they say is mighty fine,
But when you try to drink it, it tastes like turpentine.

The biscuits that they serve you, they say are mighty fine,
But one rolled off the table and killed a friend of mine.

The spaghetti that they serve you, they say is mighty fine
They rinse it the toilet and drain it on the line.

The cocoa that they serve you, they say is mighty fine
It’s good for cuts and bruises and tastes like iodine.

The tents/cabins that you sleep in, they say are mighty fine,
But whoever said this has never slept in mine.

The toilets that they have here are the best that they can get,
Last night my tent mate had to go, they haven’t found him yet.

Scout Camp www.scoutsongs.com

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Another One Bites the Dust (Take 1): Boys and Girls Sports

Posted by Dale Kuehne on February 25, 2017

Mack Beggs wins gold at the Texas Girl Wrestling Championship. Born a girl, and undergoing testosterone treatment, Mack will become synonymous with the debate about the future of gendered sport in America.

The question won’t be whether boys can play on girls teams (or boys on girls teams) but whether we will even have boys or girls teams.

Another distinction bites the dust.

http://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/community/northeast-tarrant/article135021414.html

Steve walks warily down the street
The brim pulled way down low
And ain’t no sound but the sound of his feet
Machine guns ready to go

Are you ready hey, are you ready for this
Are you standing on the edge of your seat
Out of the doorway the bullets rip
To the sound of the beat, yeah, yeah, yeah, sing it

Another one bites the dust
Another one bites the dust, hey
And another one gone, and another one gone
Another one bites the dust
Hey, I’m gonna get you too
Another one bites the dust

Another One Bites the Dust by Queen from The Game (1980)

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Making Babies With and Without You: All We Need is Me

Posted by Dale Kuehne on January 16, 2017

Scientists find a way to make embryos from skin cells.

https://phys.org/news/2016-09-scientists-embryos-non-egg-cells.html

Scientists find a way to make sperm from skin cells

https://phys.org/news/2016-04-scientists-skin-cells-human-sperm.html

It is just a matter of time until “I” am both Mom and Dad.

I can do it with and without you.

See the stone set in your eyes
See the thorn twist in your side
I wait for you

Sleight of hand and twist of fate
On a bed of nails she makes me wait
And I wait without you

With or without you
With or without you

Through the storm we reach the shore
You give it all but I want more
And I’m waiting for you

With or without you
With or without you
I can’t live, with or without you

And you give yourself away
And you give yourself away
And you give, and you give

And you give yourself away

My hands are tied
My body bruised, she got me with
Nothing to win and nothing left to lose

And you give yourself away
And you give yourself away
And you give, and you give
And you give yourself away

With or without you
With or without you
I can’t live, with or without you

With or without you
With or without you
I can’t live, with or without you
With or without you

With or Without You by U2 from Joshua Tree (1987)

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Mom and Dad are One and the Same: Male Pregnancy … the New Oedipus

Posted by Dale Kuehne on January 9, 2017

2017 has arrived, as has Male pregnancy.

Who’s next?

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2567386/who-is-hayden-cross-uks-first-pregnant-man-undergoing-gender-realignment-treatment/

One wonder how Ray Stephens might have written this song in 2017,

Many, many years ago when I was twenty-three
I was married to a widow who was pretty as could be
This widow had a grown-up daughter who had hair of red
My father fell in love with her and soon they too were wed

This made my dad my son-in-law and really changed my life
For now my daughter was my mother, ’cause she was my father’s wife
And to complicate the matter, even though it brought me joy
I soon became the father of a bouncing baby boy

My little baby then became a brother-in-law to dad
And so became my uncle, though it made me very sad
For if he were my uncle, then that also made him brother
Of the widow’s grownup daughter, who was of course my step-mother

Father’s wife then had a son who kept them on the run
And he became my grandchild, for he was my daughter’s son
My wife is now my mother’s mother and it makes me blue
Because although she is my wife, she’s my grandmother too

Now if my wife is my grandmother, then I’m her grandchild
And every time I think of it, it nearly drives me wild
‘Cause now I have become the strangest ‘case you ever saw
As husband of my grandmother, I am my own grandpa

I’m my own grandpa, I’m my own grandpa
It sounds funny, I know but it really is so
I’m my own grandpa

I am my Own Grandpa from Cracking’ Up by Ray Stevens (1987)

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Robosexuality: The Future of Marriage and Identity … Now

Posted by Dale Kuehne on December 23, 2016

The future of Marriage is now for those who want more than human contact, or less.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4060440/Woman-reveals-love-ROBOT-wants-marry-it.html

Hey I was born less than human
I know it sounds crazy
But I was really born a robot as a baby
No real life in me, I just played my role
No self control, I just did what I was told
I got my first order, I was just a day old
But I didn’t have a chance, cause my heart was way cold
My heart took the order, I couldn’t break the mold
Sold under bondage and I couldn’t take control
So I was just chilling in my robot clothes
With my robot friends, and my robot flows
Living robot ways, cause that’s all I know
Till I heard I could be freed from my robot soul

Robot by Trip Lee from The Good Life (2012)

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