Signpostings

Relationships in a World of Individualism

  • rWorld

    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

    I also blog at Sharewik.com

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Archive for the ‘Health and Wellness’ Category

Solving the World’s Problems … with Beer

Posted by Dale Kuehne on April 28, 2017

Heineken conducts an experiment in changing the world … one conversation at a time.

I like beer ’cause it is good
I drink beer because I should
If there was a song to sing
I sing it and beer you bring

I drink beer when I am sad
‘Cause the beer, it makes me glad
Now there’s nothing left to say
So let’s go drink beer

Beer by Psychostick from We Couldn’t Think of a Title (2003)

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Relational Well-Being Trumps Wealth

Posted by Dale Kuehne on April 13, 2017

Still more research to indicate that the quality of our relationships matter more than our standard of living.

When will our political and economic leaders catch on?

Probably when we all begin to realize that what is missing from our lives is not more income but better relationships. It is not more money that we need.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-38285223

Well He hasn’t always been around
And He won’t always be.
But He’s on the move at this moment
Measuring life for you and me.

I fear we all submit to him
Existing anxiously,
And no one is able to turn him off
Except the Lord who holds the key.

Time by Phil Keaggy from Love Broke Through (1976)

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Making rWorld a Better Place: Hardly Random Acts of Kindness

Posted by Dale Kuehne on August 29, 2014

A whiff of something wonderfully lethal from Thailand.

Priceless.

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Rediscovering the Secret of Marriage: One Course at a Time

Posted by Dale Kuehne on December 29, 2013

There is hope for marriage. The Guardian doesn’t understand why, but the reporter discovered a marriage course in London that actually saves marriage.

What the journalist didn’t say is that the course is working all over the world. Recently the Chinese government asked the Lee’s to bring the marriage course to China. Simply because it works.

Like gravity there is a relational physics that dictates what works and what doesn’t.

There are reasons why marriage works and why it doesn’t.

Even if no one understands why.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/dec/28/mission-to-save-marriages

Do you know what I think of you?
Do you know what I feel is true?
Do you know what I think of her?
I know what she thinks of me, I’m sure
Don’t know why it’s so, but it’s true!
So you know what I think about you
But do you know what you want me to do?
When you see me staring at you
Do you know what I want you to do?
I don’t know why it’s so, but it’s true!
I don’t want to have sex with you
I want to be your friend
I want to be with you
I want you to marry me
Now you know what I think about you
You know that my speed is you
I know I want you to be my wife
And be with me the rest of your life
Do you know what I think about you?

Marriage by Descendants from Milo Goes to College (1982)

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Christmas and the Madison Avenue (PTSD) Hangover

Posted by Dale Kuehne on December 17, 2013

Money can’t buy us love. We knew that. It turns out that the less it matters to us the better.

New scholarship suggests attachment to things is more damaging than previously thought.

Christ came to save the world from ourselves.

How ironic.

http://www.theguardian.com/news/2013/dec/02/shoppers-beware-materialism-worse-than-thought

Can’t buy me love, love
Can’t buy me love

I’ll buy you a diamond ring my friend
If it makes you feel all right
I’ll get you anything my friend
If it makes you feel all right
‘Cause I don’t care too much for money
For money can’t buy me love

I’ll give you all I’ve got to give
If you say you love me too
I may not have a lot to give
But what I’ve got I’ll give to you
I don’t care too much for money
For money can’t buy me love

Can’t buy me love
Everybody tells me so
Can’t buy me love
No no no, no

Say you don’t need no diamond rings
And I’ll be satisfied
Tell me that you want the kind of things
That money just can’t buy
I don’t care too much for money
Money can’t buy me love

Can’t buy me love
Everybody tells me so
Can’t buy me love
No no no, no

Say you don’t need no diamond rings
And I’ll be satisfied
Tell me that you want the kind of things
That money just can’t buy
I don’t care too much for money
Money can’t buy me love

Can’t buy me love, love
Can’t buy me love, oh

Can’t By Me Love by Lennon and McCartney from A Hard Day’s Night by The Beatles (1964)

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Sexually Transmitted Diseases The Morning After (Pill)

Posted by Dale Kuehne on May 3, 2013

American public policy is … complicated. We pay millions of dollars annually in tobacco price supports even as we spend more money trying to get people to stop smoking.

Presently the government is warning us about a significant rise in sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) among young people, with women bearing the most significant risks of serious complications, even as the FDA has just made the decision to permit the unregulated sale of the morning after pill to woman as young as 15.

What’s more, the government and the media is all the while preaching the importance of “protected” sex (condom), yet not being forthcoming about the fact that while using condoms is an effective way to prevent the transmission of HIV, condoms are less effective against the very STD’s that are on the rise.

Sex is never just sex.

Nor is it safe.

What passes for public health in the iWorld …

Meanwhile back to reality.

http://vitals.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/02/13/16951432-ongoing-severe-epidemic-of-stds-in-us-report-finds?lite

http://vitals.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/04/30/17989156-fda-approves-plan-b-one-step-for-girls-15-and-older-without-prescription?lite

It’s the morning after, aftermath
move forward forget the past
because last night was unbearable
Though it’s over, it never ends
Finding comfort in my best friends
last niht was horrible

The only cure for a broken heart
is to rip it out and put it in a jar
filled with Novocain
Reattach after thirty days
or until the pain
fades away…fades away

We both promise not to forget
We’ll always be there, we always be friends
Come what may
Standing over, cleanse my wounds
Even if the gun was fired by you
Remember, remember there’s a place inside my heart for you always

The only cure for a broken heart
is to rip it out and put it in a jar
filled with Novocain
Reattach after thirty days
or until the pain
fades away…fades away
Why can’t this all fade away
It’s never okay, it’s never okay
Why can’t this all fade away
It’s never ok, it’s never okay
Why can’t this all fade away
It’s never ok, it’s never okay
Why’d it all have to end this way

The only cure for a broken heart
is to rip it out and put it in a jar
filled with Novocain
Reattach after thirty days
or until the pain
fades away…fades away

Morning After Pill by Said Bert

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Good Friday: Fighting For Theo

Posted by Dale Kuehne on March 29, 2013

We are all praying for Theo.

Theo’s Uncle is doing more.

Can you help?

http://www.wcvb.com/news/local/Viral-video-seeks-clues-to-dying-teen-s-rare-disease/-/9848876/19516424/-/ntv8qp/-/index.html

I just can’t sleep tonight
Knowing that things ain’t right
It’s in the papers, it’s on the TV, it’s everywhere that I go
Children are crying, soldiers are dying, some people don’t have a home

But I know there’s sunshine behind that rain
I know there’s good times behind that pain
Hey, can you tell me how I can make a change?

I close my eyes and I can see a brighter day
I close my eyes and pray
I close my eyes and I can see a better day
I close my eyes and pray

I lose my appetite knowing kids starve tonight
Am I a sinner, ’cause my dinner is still on my plate?
Ooh I got a vision to make a difference
And it’s starting today

‘Cause I know there’s sunshine behind that rain
I know there’s good times behind that pain
Can you tell me how I can make a change?

I close my eyes and I can see a brighter day
I close my eyes and pray
I close my eyes and I can see a better day

I close my eyes and pray for the brokenhearted
I pray for the life not started
I pray for all the ones not breathing
I pray for all the souls in need
I pray, can you give ’em one today?

I just can’t sleep tonight
Can someone tell me how to make a change?

I close my eyes and I can see a brighter day
I close my eyes and pray
I close my eyes and I can see a better day
I close my eyes and I pray, I pray, I pray
I close my eyes and pray, pray

Pray by Justin Bieber from Under the Mistletoe (2011)

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Praying for Theo

Posted by Dale Kuehne on March 19, 2013

Even as I publish this, the life of 15 year-old Theo Menswar hangs in the balance. The medical community is telling us he is living on borrowed time, though Theo doesn’t seem to agree. I spent the end of last week with Theo and his family, Brant, Emily, and Brady Menswar. I expected great sadness, but what I found in the midst of exhaustion and weariness was a presence of comfort beyond explanation.

You can find my attempt to find words for this in my latest sharewik blog:

http://stories.sharewik.com/blogs/item/praying-for-theo

Breathing in and breathing out
My head leaned back my hands are tied
I stand in here alone I scream, questions why
Days slip by and nights I taste
These memories run through my veins
Injecting me with one last kiss, screaming why

This medication can’t save me
This desperation takes hold of me
I wanted to believe in all of this
I wanted to believe in you

All I am, all I have
Leads me down these roads again
Take my hand, show me the way
And never bring me back here

Determination, is pushing me
Perseverance, is what I bleed
I wanted to believe in all of this
I wanted to believe in you

All I am, all I have
Leads me down these roads again
Take my hand, show me the way
And never bring me back here

These are my unanswered prayers
The time has come for me to say goodbye

God please hear me, calling

All I am, all I have
Leads me down these roads again
Take my hand, show me the way
And never bring me back here

These are my unanswered prayers
the time has come for me to say goodbye

God please hear me, calling

Prayers by In this Moment from Beautiful Tragedy (2007)

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Denying Depression Denial

Posted by Dale Kuehne on March 15, 2013

When I tell people I suffer from physical illness they are usually compassionate.

When I tell people I suffer from mental illness they either try to tell me I don’t, or they distance themselves very quickly.

Why?

I wrestle with depression. Please don’t try to tell me otherwise. I’m OK with it. Why? Because there are treatments that are working.

Denial helps no one, and it hurts all of us who need help.

Why do I admit to depression? You can read about it in my latest sharewik blog:

http://stories.sharewik.com/blogs/item/depression-denial

Underlying depression, have to crawl into my room
Underlying depression don’t want to know about the moon in june
Outside there’s a cavalcade of clowns but they`re bringing me down
With underlying depression

Underlying depression and it’s starting in my backyard
Underlying depression, and these times ain’t even so hard
Lord I was born with the blues and my blue suede shoes
And underlying depression

Underlying depresslon and there’s ust nowhere to turn
Underlying depression and things just seem to turn in on one
Sometimes I’m stuck in the corner just like little jack horner
With underlying depression

Underlying depression and I just can’t get it right
Underlying depression I’ve got to fight it with all of my might
Right now I don’t want to be alone
Get my baby on the telephone
Underlying depression

Have to make some concessions when everything is working right
Have to count my blessings, helps me make it through the night
I’ve got love in my life as well as trouble and strife
And underlying depression

Underlying depression, underlying depression, underlying depression
Ain’t nothing but the blues
Underlying depression ain’t nothing but the blues
Underlying depression, ain’t nothing but the blues
Underlying depression

Underlying Depression by Van Morrison from Days Like This (1995)

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How I Met Your Mother: Concussed

Posted by Dale Kuehne on March 4, 2013

Marrying Rachel is one of the best things that ever happened to me. The problem is I don’t remember how we got to know each other. 🙂

My latest sharewik blog on concussions explains why.

http://stories.sharewik.com/blogs/item/concussed

Who are you?
Who, who, who, who?

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