Signpostings

Relationships in a World of Individualism

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    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

    I also blog at Sharewik.com

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Archive for the ‘Campaign 2012’ Category

The Future of Marriage and Family (Take 1)

Posted by Dale Kuehne on November 14, 2012

As I listen to people either celebrate or lament the results of the recent US elections, there is one sentiment about which almost everyone will agree: America has made the transition to a post-Christian, postmodern nation. Nowhere is this more clear than in our approach to and expectations for relationships. As Zygmunt Bauman of the University of Leeds has observed, we live in a world of “Liquid Love.” The next 3 signposts will examine the changes that are occurring. The purpose of looking at the current snapshot of marriage and family is neither to put any of us on a guilt trip or put salt into wounds. It is merely to ask us to consider where things are headed and whether or not we are heading in a socially sustaining direction. In short, is the iWorld sustainable?

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/12/14/barely-half-of-u-s-adults-are-married-a-record-low/#overview

Could you whisper in my ear
The things you wanna feel
I’d give you anythin’
To feel it comin’

Do you wake up on your own
And wonder where you are?
You live with all your faults

I wanna wake up where you are
I won’t say anything at all
So why don’t you slide

Yeah, I’m gonna let it slide

Don’t you love the life you killed?
The priest is on the phone
Your father hit the wall
Your ma disowned you

Don’t supposed I’ll ever know
What it means to be a man
It’s somethin’ I can’t change
I’ll live around it

I wanna wake up where you are
I won’t say anything at all
So why don’t you slide
Ooh, slide

And I’ll do anythin’ you ever dreamed to be complete
Little pieces of the nothin’ that fall
Oh, May
Put your arms around me
What you feel is what you are
And what you are is beautiful
Oh, May
Do you wanna get married Or run away?

And I’ll do anythin’ you ever dreamed to be complete
Little pieces of the nothin’ that fall
Oh, May
Put your arms around me
What you feel is what you are
And what you are is beautiful
Oh, May
Do you wanna get married
Or run away?

I wanna wake up where you are
I won’t say anything

And I’ll do anythin’ you ever dreamed to be complete
(Yeah, slide)
Little pieces of the nothin’ that fall
(yeah slide)
And I’ll do anythin’ you ever dreamed to be complete
(Yeah slide)
Little pieces of the nothin’ that fall
(Oh, oh slide)
Yeah, slide between the sheets of all them beds you never knew
(Yeah slide)
Why don’t you slide into my room
Just slide into my room
Oh, we’ll run away, run away, run away

Slide by The Goo Goo Dolls, from Dizzy Up the Girl (1988)

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Election 2012: What Happened and Why (Really)

Posted by Dale Kuehne on November 7, 2012

Every 2 years Henry Olsen, a Vice-President at the American Enterprise Institute, publishes an election prognostication the day before the election that is becoming legendary for its accuracy. He did it again. Below you will find his memo, published before the election, that explains what happened and why. No one does it better.

http://www.nationalreview.com/articles/332590/twilight-or-breaking-dawn-henry-olsen

There’s a light on the nineteenth floor tonight
They don’t know there won’t even be a fight
But they’ll find out I’ve tired of all the things I’ve called my own
When they go to the final mats alone

Don’t even waste the man-hours on us
We are finding no solution
Call all the boys in from the fighting fronts
We have lost the revolution

None of the soaring flight we dreamed
Is any closer to perfection
And all I want is one to fold my arms around
We are throwing the election
There’s a light on in Joanie’s room tonight
And she won’t sleep till summer’s going right
She thought she saw something that would lead her to believe
I’m the kind who’ll accept the strokes and leave

Make me an offer, I don’t waste them now
We have no more fixed intentions
Give all the faithful long-deserved rests
We’ve abandoned our dissentions

You could be one of someone’s hundreds
Who’ll be chosen for affection
And all I want is one to fold my arms around
We are throwing the election

I’ve got a feeling it’s all rigged
I’ve got a feeling it ended a long time ago
Nobody tells me
I’ve got a feeling it’s over now
I’ve got a feeling it’s over now
I’ve got a feeling the votes are in and I got none
And all I want is one

Throwing the Election by Game Theory from Two Steps from the Middle Ages (1988)

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2012 Election Issue # 1: Ignored at our Peril

Posted by Dale Kuehne on November 4, 2012

The primary problem facing the US is neither jobs or growth but a public and private debt that threatens our short- and long term viability. As soon as other nations decide to stop purchasing our debt, we will see this problem for what it is: our insolvency. We will also see that neither of the major candidates are addressing this issue in a serious way. Our use of money is the best indication of who we really are, and it is not something of which we can be proud.

http://www.usdebtclock.org/

So close, no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
and nothing else matters

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don’t just say
and nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
and nothing else matters

never cared for what they do
never cared for what they know
but I know

So close, no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
and nothing else matters

never cared for what they do
never cared for what they know
but I know

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don’t just say

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us, something new
Open mind for a different view
and nothing else matters

never cared for what they say
never cared for games they play
never cared for what they do
never cared for what they know
and I know

So close, no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
No, nothing else matters


Nothing Else Matters by Metallica from self-titled album (1991)

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Prognosticating Election 2012: Definitely Maybe

Posted by Dale Kuehne on October 31, 2012

Everyone wants to know who will win next Tuesday. There are a lot of pundits saying this and that based on a poll or set of polls that they like or trust. These pundits may be right, or they may not. Speaking as a social scientist, this article from the New York Times says what I believe to be true. The polls are telling us it is too close to call. The best of us acknowledge that we are making educated guesses. Those who say they KNOW what is going to happen are either delusional or have signed a contract in blood with a shady character.

http://campaignstops.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/10/30/what-too-close-to-call-really-means/

I met a girl named Tara she lived in the heart of America
She liked black caddies listened to puff daddy
Danced until her legs were sore

She worked around the corner at a diner with a grouchy owner
And her boyfriend, shady, dates another girl named Katie
He loves her definitely maybe

Don’t think I can take it wake me when it’s over so far away
I wish that it was closer I see her every day
I’m too scared to go over I wonder what she’d say
I barely even know her

And how much longer will this keep getting stronger
I wonder what she’s doing when I’m singing myself to sleep
‘Cause he’s a faker so see ya later
I wonder when you’ll realize that she means a lot more to me

I saw you in the hallway when my last class was just over
It was Friday, school was out tonight everything seems to be alright
I said yo are you going to the party at the cove
She said he’s picking me up six again
And I don’t wanna disappoint my boyfriend

And how much longer will this keep getting stronger
I wonder what she’s doing when I’m singing myself to sleep
‘Cause he’s a faker so see ya later
I wonder when you’ll realize that she means a lot more to me

And she’s staring at his picture hanging in her locker
She’s telling all the girls about all the things that he bought her
I saw what really happened all those times he went for water

When we were at the movie theater watching harry potter
He had his hands on
Every single girl he laid his eyes on to break it to you, hes a pile on
And even when he kissed her he was looking over, staring at her sister

And how much longer will this keep getting stronger
I wonder what she’s doing when I’m singing myself to sleep
‘Cause he’s a faker so see ya later
I wonder when you’ll realize that she means a lot more to me

I met a girl named Tara, she lived in the heart of America
She liked black caddies, listened to puff daddy
Danced until her legs were sore

Definitely Maybe by FM Static from What Are You Waiting For? (2003)

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