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Marriage in the US: Waning or Waxing

Posted by Dale Kuehne on June 18, 2013

The latest numbers on marriage in the US show, what they have showed for many years, a rise in cohabitation and a decline in marriage. This article from USA Today argues the marriage rate will rise as the economy improves.

I respectfully disagree. I believe the decline in marriage in the US is rooted in a decline of relational hope. A decline in the hope that we can find life-long relationships that will be healthy and nurturing.

The fundamental social crisis the US faces is relational, not economic. Indeed I’d argue the economic numbers are a product of the index of relational hope. Marriage waxes and wanes with the index of relational hope.

This is all we need, to be free To understand, and find the answer
So let’s do it now, let’s do it right now
We’ve got to live together, if we’re gonna be free
We’ve got to find the answer, right now
We’ve got to live together
We’ve got to see each other, for whatever we are
We’ve got to solve the problem, together
We’ve got to live together

Take a look at me, I’m the honest kind
When I say it I mean it, I swear I need you, all my life
All we need is sympathy, if we want to change our minds
This is no second thought, this is for all times, all my life
This has got to be forever
Whatever, whatever’s come, whatever’s been
It’s livin’ life for what we see, promise not to lose our hope
We’ve got to live together, if we’re gonna be free
We’ve got to find the answer, right now
We’ve got to live together, we’ve got to live together

Live Together by Lisa Stansfield from Affection (1989)


One Response to “Marriage in the US: Waning or Waxing”

  1. Luke Barnett said

    Wow, I find the argument (economic decline/incline and a direct correlation to marriage) vastly empty of any rational or relational logic. The paragraph “Cultural changes about whether and when to marry … two-thirds of first marriages are preceded by cohabitation and the recession’s financial fallout — including unemployment and underemployment — fueled the wedding decline.” is a very superficial argument and decides to then place financial terms as the guiding factor in marriage.
    For me this echoes part of society’s view of marriage as a business venture. How can two people come together for a more profitable outcome. It ignores the fact that the word “people” is there and we are inherently relational.
    Thanks for the posts Dale,
    God bless, Luke

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