Relationships in a World of Individualism

  • rWorld

    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

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The Future of Marriage and Family: Sex Addiction

Posted by Dale Kuehne on December 4, 2012

An intelligent article about recent research that explores how pornography and the hook-up culture is impacting marriage and parenting.

People are fond of saying “things have always been this way.” This is an example of how changes in technology and cultural mores is directly impacting our ability to have life long monogamous relationships. It helps explain why over 40% of American children are born outside of marriage, and an even higher percentage are not living with their birth parents.

How long will it take for us to admit that sexual relations is not a need, and has significance far beyond what we currently understand.

What can we do about it? We can ask our lawmakers to change the internet so that you have to “opt in” to websites. We need to address these issues with kids early in middle school and walk with them into adulthood and beyond. Our kids need to have relationships that are more fulfilling than sex. Right now most do not. We have failed them.

People ask me if I am obsessed with sex. No. I am obsessed with relationship. Sex is an issue because of its profound relational impact. The evidence is overwhelming and there is more of it every day. Its relational impact is second only to our inordinate desire for money.

I waited patiently for the Lord
He inclined and heard my cry
He lift me up out of the pit
Out of the miry clay

I will sing, sing a new song
I will sing, sing a new song

How long to sing this song?
How long to sing this song?
How long…how long…how long…
How long…to sing this song

He set my feet upon a rock
And made my footsteps firm
Many will see
Many will see and fear

I will sing, sing a new song
I will sing, sing a new song
I will sing, sing a new song
I will sing, sing a new song

How long to sing this song?
How long to sing this song?
How long…how long…how long…

40 by U2 from Boy (1983)

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