Signpostings

Relationships in a World of Individualism

  • rWorld

    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

    I also blog at Sharewik.com

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Post-Marriage America

Posted by Dale Kuehne on December 15, 2011

The Pew Foundations survey on marriage finds that just 51% of Americans are married. An all-time low. What is most significant is that on 20% of people between the ages of 18-29 are married. Unless there is an unprecendented revival of marriage, demographically there is a strong likelihood we will drop below 40% in a decade, and into the 30’s shortly thereafter.

The United States has done a better job than the marxist-leninists in undermining religion and the family. The problem is that there is no record of a civilization that has found a viable alternative to marriage.

Will we?

The pundits are already making the case that young people are merely delaying marriage and that the picture is much more optimistic than I describe.

I beg to disagree.

Young Americans have lost faith in marriage because they have lost faith in the idea that they will ever find a fulfilling life-long relationship.

The crisis of our time is a crisis of relational hope.

Addressing this crisis is what the rWorld is all about … and my next book …coming in 2012.

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/12/14/barely-half-of-u-s-adults-are-married-a-record-low/1/?utm_medium=newsletter&utm_campaign=culturewatch

I know you said “You’re Ready”, but I’m not ready
See marriage don’t change, nothing but your name
Unless it’s real love, through the sunshine and the rain
For better or for worse, girl this is not a game
See marriage don’t change, nothing but your name

Now I’ve been trying to make you understand
That I’m proud to be with you and I’m happy I’m your man
I know your moms and your pops wanna see you walking down that aisle asking what’s up
‘Cause it’s been awhile, ’bout seven years now
We’ve been together baby, but girl I’m still not ready
Take it easy don’t push me away, don’t want to make a mistake
I wanna do thing right and my paper right
Wanna be 100% is with you, I wanna spend my life

Marriage don’t change, nothing but your name
Unless it’s real love, through the sunshine and the rain
For better or for worse, girl this is not a game
See marriage don’t change, nothing but your name

Marriage don’t change, nothing but your name
Unless it’s real love, through the joy and through the pain
It’s more than a ceremony, more than a wedding ring
A marriage won’t change, nothing but your name

Ever since you caught that bouquet at your friends wedding day
I’ve been under pressure babe (I’ve been under pressure girl)
Now you window shop for wedding gowns and wedding bands,
Pickin’ out your bridemaids and the theme song for the reception,

I know you love me baby, but girl I’m still not ready
It’s so many thing’s such you don’t know about me
Even though we’ve been together for so long
We got a long way to go, so girl lets take it slow

It’s not that I can’t see myself a life with you
Girl I aint going nowhere, lets take our time
This ain’t something that you just jump into
And marriage don’t change no

See marriage don’t change, nothing but your name
Unless it’s real love, through the sunshine and the rain
For better or for worse, girl this is not a game
See marriage don’t change, nothing but your name


Marriage by Marques Houston from Naked (2007)

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One Response to “Post-Marriage America”

  1. Deanna said

    Boy oh boy….sounds like my life! Seven years and I am still waiting! Good grief….

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