Relationships in a World of Individualism

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    The rWorld is about more than Dale Kuehne's book Sex and the iWorld.
    The rWorld is a New England based, non-profit (in formation), that is composed of a growing number of people and organizations from many faith and ideological backgrounds worldwide. We believe that much of the fulfillment for which women and men are looking can be found by enhancing the quality of our relationships. While the individual freedom we enjoy in the West is a gift, the love and intimacy for which humans yearn will not be found in self-serving materialism or hedonism, but in a variety of healthy relationships.

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  • Dale Kuehne

    Sex & the iWorld

    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

    In this blog I'm highlighting signposts of the world in which we presently reside as a means of helping promote a civil, and meaningful dialogue about what kind of world in which we wish to live. I am particularly interested in exploring how might we reconcile the individual good and the common good, and where reconciliation isn’t possible, which should take precedence and why.

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True Love is NOT FOR SALE

Posted by Dale Kuehne on August 11, 2010

In a departure from my usual fare, I am posting a musing on love I wrote for the SoulFest 2010 program in support of the NOT FOR SALE campaign.

Love is completely misunderstood.

We are made for Love.

Yet we understand it not.

We sing of love, we talk of love, we profess love, we yearn for love.

What is it we mean when we tell someone “I love you?”

What is it we mean when we say, “I love God?”

Why is there so much betrayal, divorce, violence and war coming from the lives of people who talk about love?

We do not understand it.

John, the disciple whom Jesus loved, understood it.

God is love. Whoever lives in love, lives in God and God in him. … We love because he first loved us … Everyone who loves has been born of God.

Love is not a command.

Love is not something we do.

To say “I love” is an oxymoron.

God is love.

We cannot create love.

But we can be filled with love.

We can pass along the love we have been given.

We don’t make love.

The love we receive is not equal to the love we make.

Money can’t buy us love.

Nothing can.

Love is a gift.

Love came at a price we cannot pay.

Dear Friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God, and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent Jesus into the world to die for us.

Love is not a romantic infatuation that wears off over time.

Love is not intending to be nice to someone for a long time.

Love we make is a counterfeit.

The counterfeit reigns on earth.

The counterfeit is killing us.

The good news is that there is an antidote for that which is killing us.



TRUE LOVE is beyond us.

And it is offered to us, as a gift.

Jesus is the gift.



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