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    Professor of Politics and The Richard L. Bready Chair for Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good at Saint Anselm College, Manchester, NH.

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The Paradoxical Commandments

Posted by Dale Kuehne on April 29, 2010

The Paradoxical Commandments by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.


2 Responses to “The Paradoxical Commandments”

  1. Bruce Meyer said

    They remind me of “practice resurrection.”
    Maybe they all are ways to do that. 8D

  2. Lauren Fithian said

    Not quite sure about labeling these as paradoxical. Ironic negative potential results or side effects of living and acting right and in some cases the risk one takes of a potential negative outcome despite highly ethical and moral living. “The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow?” What a depressing mindset. (Of course, sometimes it’s not even noticed today.) Does anyone reading this actually notice and remember good that they have observed? I think many people do! At any rate, living these “commandments” does not require one to accept that by doing so the most likely outcome is the negative one.

    I can really relate to a couple of these: “Fight for a few underdogs anyway.” I find this highly relevant just now with the passage of Arizona SB 1070 and the proposal in Missouri and several other states to pass similar legislation–hurtful and hateful legislation passed because of following the “top dogs” instead of one’s own loving heart and discerning mind. I pair this one with “People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.” I suggest the following slight change: People really need help but OTHERS may attack you if you do help them.

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